Women and Orgasm
We are by our very nature truly sexual beings, in that we are always turned on. This feminine sexual energy in Tantra is termed Shakti and as women we all possess it. Having said this many women go through life ashamed of our Shakti and therefore ashamed of our sexuality. We are defined by this energy and without acknowledging it, we are just a shells of who we really could be as we go through life.
Tantric philosophy believes that every woman is a goddess and as such are to be revered, however, in this day and age exactly the opposite is often the norm.
The sad fact is that we live in a world where those of us who are overtly sexual are condemned by society, not only today but throughout history. And in our so-called liberated world, we choose to suppress our true sexual nature because we feel that this is the way we need to act to be taken seriously, to gain acceptance and respect and to be loved.
It is this belief of how we are perceived by others that prevents us from relaxing and letting go enough during lovemaking to achieve orgasm through intercourse...... we do not want to be seen as "being out of control", even by our partners for fear that they will think less of us. It is, therefore, understandable why many of us are only able to achieve orgasm through self-pleasuring. And why so many more are so ashamed of our bodies that we deny ourselves the pleasure entirely.
This is the inner struggle that we as women face..... But as women we need to realise that we can't suppress it, that we need to love and embrace that part of us for what it stands for, unconditionally.
Over the years I have to come to realise that it is not our outward appearance that is important, it is who we are inside that gives us our true beauty. Everyone of us is unique and has something to offer but only if we allow ourselves to be who true to ourselves. We must listen to our hearts, do what feels good and most importantly be responsible for experiencing our orgasm for this is the greatest gift that we could give ourselves.